Comments for Amanda Dickson http://blog.amandadickson.com Just another WordPress weblog Sun, 08 Jan 2012 07:16:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Comment on “Good things are coming.” by Rebecca Batty http://blog.amandadickson.com/?p=219&cpage=1#comment-13775 Rebecca Batty Sun, 08 Jan 2012 07:16:46 +0000 http://blog.amandadickson.com/?p=219#comment-13775 This story is just full of awesomesauce! I love the sign-off and I love traditions in all their forms! Thank you, Amanda, for always sharing just the perfect thing to brighten all of our days! HUGS! This story is just full of awesomesauce! I love the sign-off and I love traditions in all their forms! Thank you, Amanda, for always sharing just the perfect thing to brighten all of our days! HUGS!

]]> Comment on Wild Horses by Chris Hall http://blog.amandadickson.com/?p=160&cpage=1#comment-13177 Chris Hall Thu, 06 Oct 2011 04:15:20 +0000 http://amandadickson.com/blog/?p=160#comment-13177 Absolutely beautiful! Absolutely beautiful!

]]> Comment on Wild Horses by Becky Parry http://blog.amandadickson.com/?p=160&cpage=1#comment-13170 Becky Parry Wed, 05 Oct 2011 23:09:33 +0000 http://amandadickson.com/blog/?p=160#comment-13170 Loved this! We need to do lunch! Miss you. Loved this! We need to do lunch! Miss you.

]]> Comment on Wild Horses by Rebecca Batty http://blog.amandadickson.com/?p=160&cpage=1#comment-13166 Rebecca Batty Wed, 05 Oct 2011 19:00:20 +0000 http://amandadickson.com/blog/?p=160#comment-13166 A wonderful "love letter"! Happy birthday Aaron! A wonderful “love letter”! Happy birthday Aaron!

]]> Comment on Help me love him better by Michelle http://blog.amandadickson.com/?p=148&cpage=1#comment-9236 Michelle Fri, 13 May 2011 01:33:07 +0000 http://amandadickson.com/blog/?p=148#comment-9236 I would be very careful with what I shared. I think childhood is precious and the only time that is filled with innocence and pure joy. It gets taken away soon enough.....but on the other hand, there are some things they need to know, just depends. I'd go with "do they "need" to know this? and take it from there. I've seen some parents just burden their children with their problems, so that the children end up "parenting" the parent..... so sad. I would be very careful with what I shared. I think childhood is precious and the only time that is filled with innocence and pure joy. It gets taken away soon enough…..but on the other hand, there are some things they need to know, just depends. I’d go with “do they “need” to know this? and take it from there. I’ve seen some parents just burden their children with their problems, so that the children end up “parenting” the parent….. so sad.

]]> Comment on Help me love him better by Sandy http://blog.amandadickson.com/?p=148&cpage=1#comment-9234 Sandy Fri, 13 May 2011 00:49:18 +0000 http://amandadickson.com/blog/?p=148#comment-9234 I don't know why you think you should hide your sadness from your children. Children need to know that sadness exists in this world, but that we can overcome it. If you hide all your emotions from your children, when they are faced with those same emotions, they won't recognize them and may not know how to deal with them. We teach by example. Show your children that being sad is okay, because being happy will return. I don’t know why you think you should hide your sadness from your children. Children need to know that sadness exists in this world, but that we can overcome it. If you hide all your emotions from your children, when they are faced with those same emotions, they won’t recognize them and may not know how to deal with them. We teach by example. Show your children that being sad is okay, because being happy will return.

]]> Comment on Help me love him better by Varena Terrero http://blog.amandadickson.com/?p=148&cpage=1#comment-9232 Varena Terrero Fri, 13 May 2011 00:26:51 +0000 http://amandadickson.com/blog/?p=148#comment-9232 Amanda, I have been influenced on both sides of the fence. A story/book called "Mama's Bank Account" is a thoughtful look at how one mother dealt with the challenge of financial problems while raising her family. Very worthy points to consider. Somewhat on the other side, I have come to realize what "putting on a happy face" to children and entirely disallowing them into the truth of our pain or concerns can undermine our efforts to teach them to trust their sensitivities about others' feelings. I think that we can do our children a disservice if, when they ask us, "Mommy, are you sad?"....we pretend otherwise "for their sakes" and assure them, "Oh, Mommy is just fine. Everything is OK." By doing this, we end up teaching them to discount or totally dismiss their emotional/spiritual sensitivities to what is really going on. They learn to NOT trust their feelings or intuitions, the accuracy of their assessments. Someone has observed that kids are keen observers, but untrained (lousy) interpreters. It is our job as parents to teach them to interpret properly. It is risky to leave kids to make up the "rest of the story" when they are only privy to one part of it. That is why so many abused kids conclude it is their fault, or that it is their fault that mommy and daddy are divorcing or fighting or whatever. Amanda, I have been influenced on both sides of the fence. A story/book called “Mama’s Bank Account” is a thoughtful look at how one mother dealt with the challenge of financial problems while raising her family. Very worthy points to consider. Somewhat on the other side, I have come to realize what “putting on a happy face” to children and entirely disallowing them into the truth of our pain or concerns can undermine our efforts to teach them to trust their sensitivities about others’ feelings. I think that we can do our children a disservice if, when they ask us, “Mommy, are you sad?”….we pretend otherwise “for their sakes” and assure them, “Oh, Mommy is just fine. Everything is OK.” By doing this, we end up teaching them to discount or totally dismiss their emotional/spiritual sensitivities to what is really going on. They learn to NOT trust their feelings or intuitions, the accuracy of their assessments. Someone has observed that kids are keen observers, but untrained (lousy) interpreters. It is our job as parents to teach them to interpret properly. It is risky to leave kids to make up the “rest of the story” when they are only privy to one part of it. That is why so many abused kids conclude it is their fault, or that it is their fault that mommy and daddy are divorcing or fighting or whatever.

]]> Comment on Help me love him better by Kim http://blog.amandadickson.com/?p=148&cpage=1#comment-9224 Kim Thu, 12 May 2011 22:12:22 +0000 http://amandadickson.com/blog/?p=148#comment-9224 I would think it depends on the reason for your emotions. You do want your kids to know that you are a human being with feelings. And you want them to feel comfortable expressing emotions, so you need to set the example of how to express all the different emotions. But I'm sure you don't want to go all out emotional on them, either. I would think it depends on the reason for your emotions. You do want your kids to know that you are a human being with feelings. And you want them to feel comfortable expressing emotions, so you need to set the example of how to express all the different emotions. But I’m sure you don’t want to go all out emotional on them, either.

]]> Comment on Help me love him better by Cindie http://blog.amandadickson.com/?p=148&cpage=1#comment-9219 Cindie Thu, 12 May 2011 19:30:26 +0000 http://amandadickson.com/blog/?p=148#comment-9219 Amanda, I always sheltered by kids from my emotions. Not that I didn't wear them on my sleeve, I did. But when it got really hard, and I needed a good cry, I would go downstairs to the bathroom, lock the door, get in the shower with all of my clothes on, curl in the corner and cry unabashedly, fully and wholly. For at least 15 minutes full crying for 15 minutes. I would be exhaused when I was done, spent of the sadness. What my kids saw after that was a tired mommy. Every mommy is tired aren't we? They understand that emotion and don't need to understand emotions that we ourselves don't understand. It worked for me; it worked for my kids. Amanda,

I always sheltered by kids from my emotions. Not that I didn’t wear them on my sleeve, I did. But when it got really hard, and I needed a good cry, I would go downstairs to the bathroom, lock the door, get in the shower with all of my clothes on, curl in the corner and cry unabashedly, fully and wholly. For at least 15 minutes full crying for 15 minutes. I would be exhaused when I was done, spent of the sadness. What my kids saw after that was a tired mommy. Every mommy is tired aren’t we? They understand that emotion and don’t need to understand emotions that we ourselves don’t understand. It worked for me; it worked for my kids.

]]> Comment on I wrote a bucket list by Rebecca Batty http://blog.amandadickson.com/?p=144&cpage=1#comment-6135 Rebecca Batty Wed, 02 Feb 2011 09:35:29 +0000 http://amandadickson.com/blog/?p=144#comment-6135 I love the idea of a bucket list, but am nervous to make one, feels like a commitment to something I'm not ready for, I don't know... BUT although I know exactly you mean, don't rule out: http://www.paristexas.gov/ & http://rome.georgia.gov/05/home/0,2230,9007580,00.html;jsessionid=7E7EBA486662E139BA143FECEB3E213D & http://www.ci.london.oh.us/ Hey, it works, too...if nothing else! :) I love the idea of a bucket list, but am nervous to make one, feels like a commitment to something I’m not ready for, I don’t know… BUT although I know exactly you mean, don’t rule out: http://www.paristexas.gov/ & http://rome.georgia.gov/05/home/0,2230,9007580,00.html;jsessionid=7E7EBA486662E139BA143FECEB3E213D & http://www.ci.london.oh.us/ Hey, it works, too…if nothing else! :)

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